Western societies are maturing with their endeavor of establishing a flexible & capacitating set of social norms & standards to the point that organizations are now not only defending the rights of homosexuals (or more inflammably: GLBT), but also the right of the latter to choose to revert back to their (I can’t help but say it) instinctual heterosexual (normal) status!
In the meantime, at this defeated part of the world, we still seem to be dragged into following the same progression route of western societies when dealing with this issue! That is to say to start with a total oblivious tabooing of the issue, while it’s a reoccurring phenomenon in all societies across time is an established fact even in Holy Scriptures!
Then you got groups forming to defend the rights of homosexuals capitalizing on the rising liberal environment throughout the 19th & 20th centuries, declassifying it as a psychiatric illness, to the point of total embracement (if not celebration) of homosexuality while proving its normalcy (it’s Oh-my genetic you know! So does cheating-on-one’s-wife as they say too).
Finally, & as you may expect from any society sincerely seeking social justice & equilibrium, they arrived to the conclusive underlying fact that homosexuality (whether genetically triggered or not) is like any other “lifestyle”, a matter of choice that (within the context of social justice in such societies) shouldn’t be condemned nor judged or segregated against, hence the flourishing of groups trying to help existing homosexuals who suddenly find themselves inclined towards the other sex (Again, I can’t help but saying) as they should!
So while people out there are choosing (replace with “discovering” if you are soft on the subject) that they are gay & others are discovering that they no longer fancy same-sex mates & struggle to come out of their new closet… Here at this oblivious part of the world, we choose to follow the same road pathetically.
Be it the backward-minded “religious” folks who view homosexuality as a product of the west (will, the hype around it definitely is, but that’s another story altogether) to the out-right liberal who think we should “learn” from the west how to embrace homosexuality with love & respect… the whole spectrum of opinions got it all but too wrong in my humble perspective because they fail to cherish the very fact that we could possibly have a different case.
Take for instance the Arabic (English speaking/written ones as well) media, chiefly the numerous satellite channels, they all approach homosexuality among other topics as an opportunity to be the lucratively first Arabic media outlet to break this into the public awareness & discuss it… now this is good at face value, but the methodology is what counts!
I have yet to witness a sincere attempt to put this subject in a unhyped & sincere format that tackles the subject without the viewership-ratings/magazine-sales boosting drama...
I’m all for taboo breaking & the exposing of our society for the illnesses it truly harbors in order for it to be remedied, but the hurtful fact is that even when we decide to discuss such matters, we erratically pick it up from where others have left the subject without any measure of scrutiny if they (the west in this case) have gotten it right to start with!
Why can’t we start something new despite our total cultural defeat, why don’t we dismiss the fad, hype, commercial exploitation & other aspects that surrounds sexuality in general & homosexuality in specific & isolate the matter in order to eruditely discuss it & come out with something that is fit for our oblivious society!
Sexuality is way too exploited in the west that even some chose an asexual “lifestyle”, reminding me of the Arabic proverb
"بدك اتحيرو خيرو"; it’s all a matter of “lifestyles” after all, isn’t it? The freedom to decide on the “lifestyle” that perfectly fits one's idea of “individualism”...
Within such context, it really makes no difference when a man (because of the gay genes, sick, frustrated or for whatever reason) start “feeling attracted” to other men, (can’t help but rubbing it) young kids or a rare Mongolian chimpanzee, it’s all about the quest for the ultimate sexual satisfaction… All I’m trying to say is that the issue surpasses homosexuality and onto the way love, relationship , family, sexuality among other things is valued (or devalued for those matters) & dealt with accordingly.
Homosexuality in our societies varies distinctly from that in the west, of course the openness of western societies & their gracious ability to be capacitating (generally speaking) makes it easier for every passing mental wimp to turn one into a homosexual, yet over here the case is different, there are in general intrinsically solid reasons for this phenomenon, beside the natural reoccurrence of it, & other than being a spoiled rich kid from western Amman who’s trying to identify him/herself with the stereotypical conception of how one should be gay who must suffer oppression & seeks endorsement from the harsh society!
My fiancée is studying anthropology, my envy to her only matches my enthusiasm for what I can learn from her, as I wish I can systematically identify & categorize the trends in our society, though I can guesstimate-ly think of few now; such as limited access to the other sex (chiefly in Saudi) where the total segregation between genders intrigues individual (though perfectly comfortable with being heterosexual) to take the roll of the other sex in some circles to vent out some of the steam… I can hear deluded-into-feeling-well-informed folks shouting “Oh, but that’s called bisexuality or roll-playing”… BS… we don’t need to be conformed to the same set of labels & diagnosis.
I can also think of a kid going “soft” in the classical setup of an authoritarian father who conjugate his manhood with his masculinity in a house full of women (the mother & a half dozen of sisters) in which the poor little kid seeks refuge in the more appealing & definitely comforting feminine surrounding.
(I’ll say it on your behalf:) this is at best an unverified speculation spoken beyond the realm of established facts, yet what I’m trying to establish here is that we don’t need to vividly mimic homosexuality in our society & deal with it the same way others dealt with it!
We must certainly do the same in terms of acknowledging the fact it exist among us, but rather be empathically capacitating (yes, I too still they’re still humans) but without being acceptingly embracing (major difference) & then see how the matter can be eradicated or lived-with until it eventually dies off or get ridiculed to the proportion it fits.
Even the hyped & tabooed nature of the homosexuality discussion in our region is mimicked, liberals & open-minded folks think they made a rub-it-in-your-face achievement when they break the replicated silence around such topics, little do they know that the matter has been comfrotebly dealt with throughout our civilization in all sort of ways (from the the total acceptance to the out-right criminalizing), but alas… even obliviousness strikes the self-acclaimed open-minded of us.
What I’m advocating for here is to look at the matter from an alternative perspective, have a sense of falsification while blindly orienting ourselves with both how we identify sexuality & how we deal with it as the "west" did!
A quick disclaimers here, I sincerely believe that those choosing to orient themselves as homosexuals are normal people behaving abnormally (whether sexually active or mere tendencies only), they're no different from a perfectly sane man cheating on his wife or addicted to smoking! But definitely I cannot differentiate between the sexual & mental build-up that leads to any abnormal sexual activity or behavior, be it asexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality, try-sexuality (if such thing exist), incest-sex, pedophilia or having sex with animals…